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Sexual Desire Quiz

For Women

Let me begin by clarifying what sexual desire is. It is your passion, interest in, the fantasy of or wish for sexual activity. For each of the following questions below, write down the number that best reflects your thoughts and feelings. This is important because you’ll add up your score at the end.

Don’t overthink it and be as honest as possible, remember this is for YOU, not anyone else!

1) How long could you go without having any sexual activity and feel very comfortable with it?

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week

2) How often during the past month would you like to have engaged in some sexual activity with a partner? (Some sexual activity, meaning giving or receiving oral, touching or being touched on genitals, intercourse, etc.)

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week

3) How often during the past month have you had sexual thoughts involving another person or partner?

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week
  6. Once every three month

4) If you were to compare yourself to other people your age and sex, how would you rate your desire to indulge sexually by yourself compared to theirs?

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week 

5) When you suddenly find yourself having sexual thoughts how often would you like to engage in sexual behavior with a partner?

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week

6) When you first see someone that you feel sexually attracted to, how strong is your sexual desire?

  1. 3-4 times a week
  2. Not at all
  3. Once every few months
  4. Once a month
  5. Once a week

7) When you spend time with a beautiful person (for example, a neighbor, a co-worker, a friend), how strong is your sexual desire?

  1. 3-4 times a week
  2. Not at all
  3. Once every few months
  4. Once a month
  5. Once a week

8) If you could choose how often you’d have sex, it would be…

  1. Not at all
  2. Once every few months
  3. Once a month
  4. Once a week
  5. 3-4 times a week

9) How important is it for you to fulfill your sexual desire through sexual activity with a partner?

  1. I avoid it
  2. I’m usually more concerned about pleasing my partner
  3. Nice if that happens
  4. Important
  5. Extremely important

10) I feel alive and sexually awakened in my body.

  1. Not at all
  2. Occasionally
  3. If I concentrate
  4. Often
  5. As much as I ever dreamt

11) At my age, I’ve finally discovered my badass sexual side.

  1. Not at all
  2. I’m not sure I know what that feels like
  3. If I concentrate
  4. Often
  5. As much as I ever dreamt

12) I tend to put my partner’s needs way above my own when it comes to sexual pleasure.

  1. Not at all 
  2. I just want to get it over with
  3. Yes I do
  4. Sometimes I do
  5. We’re about equal

Scoring

First add up the numbers! There are a total of 60 points. If your total score is a 48 or higher, you are in pretty good shape. If you scored lower, you might want to consider diving in and exploring what could be truly possible for you. Breaking through all of the things that have held you back and suppressed your true sexual desire will change your life! I’ve created a quick video to help you –  click here to get started!

Physical issues related to a lower libido could be:

  • Overall fitness and physical health
  • Soreness or discomfort during sexual intercourses (dyspareunia) or inability to reach orgasm (anorgasmia) may lead to a lack of libido.
  • Alcoholism or substance abuse, for instance, the Spanish Fly.
  • Diabetes or other severe diseases.
  • Post-baby ‘coolness,’ a term invented to describe the loss of sexuality drive that often occurs after a woman has given birth. It is almost certainly related to hormonal changes, but may also come from the trauma caused by childbirth. Furthermore, many females feel too tired to focus on sex life when having a newborn to take care of it.
  • Prescribed medications, especially tranquilizers.
  • Hormonal imbalance in women, such as hyperprolactinemia, that induces overactivity of the pituitary gland, may be a cause too. Dr. Michael Nemec, a Swiss gynecologist, states that abnormalities in the production of luteinizing hormone (LH) often results in the low drive in females, and Dr. John Studd another primary gynecologist from the UK, says that a lack of androgenic hormones may also be responsible for low libido. The controversy remains though.
  • Low self-esteem. If a woman thinks she does not deserve to be loved, she often experiences a loss of libido. Past traumatic relationships: women having already experienced one or more painful relationships will have less drive.
  • Anorexia or obesity: severely underweight or overweight females may be affected by the numerous variations in hormones and lose interest.

Mental and emotional problems have a huge role in a person’s desire for sex and her libido. The majority of women do not feel sexual desire when in the midst of emotional struggles or turmoil.

Mental and emotional problems have a huge role in a person’s desire for sex and her libido. The majority of women do not feel sexual desire when in the midst of emotional struggles or turmoil.

Psychological issues related to a lower libido could be:

  • Depression
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Loss
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Feeling fearful or uncomfortable with vulnerability
  • Internal dialog that’s self-defeating
  • Negative self-thoughts or talk
  • Lack of exploration or education about her body due to shame
  • Inability to communicate
  • Lack of assertiveness
  • Not having a healthy sense of self-worth or self-esteem
  • Never having a healthy sense of entitlement
  • Childhood trauma, as well as the bad memories from childhood and teenage years.
  • Past sexual abuse or rape.
  • Latent lesbianism, repressed feelings
  • Feelings of anger and contempt
  • Complicated, volatile relationships
  • Poor body image
  • Menopause: a lower drive is ubiquitous in menopausal females.

Now What?!

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